The sacrament of matrimony preceded the sacrament of orders
and thus established a practical priority in the deacon’s life.--Permanent Deacons in the United States: Guidelines on Their Formation and Ministry: 1984 Revision (National Conference of Catholic Bishops, Washington D.C.: 1984).
It is essential that married deacon candidates stay true to their primary vocation of being a husband. Their wives play an essential role in the deacon formation process and ordained life of married deacons. They participate and support their husbands in many ways:
Written by Christopher Gruslin
Published on December 5, 2016
The role of the wife of a deacon is to be a supportive of his ministry. Because he can't function if the wife doesn't support it.
--Manuela Tugman